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Do you find yourself saying things like: “If I get the promotion then…” or “If we get the….. then….” ? Most of us do this in our internal speak. What we are saying is that we are leaving that promotion, that home purchase, that stock portfolio, that bonus, that vacation, to luck. To the fates in the universe that we have no control over.
This can lead to frustration, unhappiness, and dissatisfaction with our lives. How do we change this? How do make our lives, our best possible lives? How do we achieve our goals, manage our lives, and be happy?
Try something new this week.
Try ‘When‘. “When I get that promotion, then…” or “When we get the … then …” Using the word ‘When’ instead of ‘If’ subconsciously puts you in the driver’s seat of your life. ‘When’ sounds like you know that this is happening, that it is part of your plan, not just a wish or a possibility.
Planning for success is often overlooked as we struggle in our everyday lives. Putting our destiny in the unsteady hands of fate is often easier than shouldering the responsibilities ourselves. We are socialized to look to luck for the good things and to work hard for the everyday things. We are taught to “Prepare for the worst, but hope for the best.” We are never told to plan for success.
You will find that as you shift the ‘if’ to ‘when’ in your life plan, you will feel more confident and in control. Your internal attitude will shine through and suddenly that promotion, award, or next step is realized because your confidence in yourself radiates from you. Others recognize that confidence, that sense of knowing where you’re headed. Let yourself be the person that you want to be.
Remember, a wish with a plan is a goal. This is an easy exercise everyday that can help all of us all achieve our goals, one plan at a time.
Have a Great Day,
Dottie Lake
Dottie Lake, Author 